Posted by blk0609 | archived on Sept. 14, 2022, 6:40 p.m.
There’s plenty of success stories on London R4R, but I wanted to post my success story as I haven’t seen many longer term, FWB type successes, mainly just one night stand successes. I hope this gives some strength to those who are looking for that deeper, lasting friends arrangement than just one hot sticky passionate night. **The Buildup** I won’t use her name to protect her identity, but will use a nickname - the Sexy Chocoholc Weightlifer (SCW for short), because that’s who she is. A bonafide chocoholic, an avid weightlifter, and damn sexy (despite her protestations that she wasn’t). She had seen my post last year, sent me a message, and we got chatting. We are both working white collar professionals, and we both had a bit of a shared panic attack when we realised we were in the same industry, and there was a chance we worked for the same company! Thankfully, that was a false alarm. SCW and I had similar styles when it came to R4R; lliked to take things slow, get to know the other person, build an intellectual and emotional connection, before jumping to the physical. We text chatted on Reddit, shared pics, then moved the chat to Whatsapp, for a while longer. When we were both ready, we met up for a few dates, the first few which had no expectations of anything NSFW, just two people having fun getting to know each other. We discovered we had some shared interests too; we were both foodies, both professionally passionate about similar things, and both into a range of similar interests and hobbies. So our FWB relationship definitely started with more emphasis on the F, rather than the B. **The Sparks Fly** Over the circa 10 months since that first Reddit message, we explored London together on fun dates; and then explored each others’ bodies as well. SCW really liked being eaten out, and I enjoyed eating pussy, so our initial few sessions were focused on her pleasure. It gave me so much satisfaction seeing the effect I was able to have on her, her sexy moans, her content face when my tongue could work no more. She also turned out to be an oral giver too, and I soon discovered how skilled she was, giving me some of the best blowjobs I’ve ever had. As we played with each other more, we communicated and found out what each other liked; the kinks, the turn-ons, the erogenous zones, the techniques that drive the other person wild. We also enjoyed the blend of SFW and NSFW activities we did; and in some cases, having SFW fun dates and not just hookup sex all the time, led to a greater satisfaction that came with the waiting, the build-up, the emotional connection. I think it did for her too, and that helped to make what we had magical. I won’t share any saucy details on our trysts over the months, as that is personal between SCW and I. But it was beautiful to have a FWB relationship because we could trust each other, and we ended up exploring some kinks that could only be done with deep trust in someone else; and you can’t get that with a ONS. **The Bittersweet Success** Sadly, the reason why we were both seeking FWBs, has now manifested itself. SCW has finalised her relocation to another country, and she also has a lot on her plate at the moment, to match what I’m looking for in a FWB. We had a frank, adult conversation on this, and so I’m slightly grieving the loss of my FWB, as you do with any meaningful relationship you have, even when it's not a full romantic, committed, and exclusive relationship. Not quite ready to jump back into finding a new FWB, but I did want to share this story, for all those Redditors out there who are looking for that someone, to not give up! Because when you do find that right connection, where there’s emotional, intellectual, and physical sparks, you both brighten up each other’s days and satisfy each other’s desires. **What Next?** Will I find someone like SCW again? I'd like to think so, as I'm optimistic guy, but she did set the bar high. **So that this passes the moderation queue, I am genuinely looking for a new FWB in the next 3 months, maybe not immediately though**. In the meantime, I’d love to chat to others who have found success or not. Also newbies, who are dipping their toes, if they have any questions. Send me a chat or DM, open to talking to both sexes. Happy to answer questions, but also just laugh and share funny stories about dates, past experiences, and so on!