Posted by Alarming_Award_9037 | archived on June 5, 2023, 10:35 a.m. | located in Singapore, SG
Hi so I am now posting the below for a third time, after finding two unbelievably good, but very short (one off) encounters with fellow redditors in the past few months. Both were (married/attached) women visiting on business, and whilst I can't pretend it hasn't made this particular frustrated redditor a lot less frustrated (gory details are very much available on request haha), I still really hope to find someone new for something that could last longer... So here I am again, also rambling again before the world's longest post haha, I will cross my fingers and stop typing (or maybe stop typing and cross my fingers?) ​ ​ ***Original post*** Hi there! Firstly thank you very much for clicking on my post in spite of my terribly unimaginative title! It's quite strange that despite being a long time lurker, and thinking about this post pretty deeply before penning it (an early apology here for writing an essay below!), I actually spent no time considering a posting title that would make people click on it, which in some ways is probably more important than what's here. Anyway, I'm going on before I've even begun! Let's get on with this... ​ **My situation:** So the first thing I have to say here is that I'm married. I reveal this in the knowledge that I'll immediately lose some (most?) of the small number of people who came here despite my terrible title, but it's also kind of the whole point of me being here, and central to who I want to find, so I am just going to own it (and probably become the only honest man on this sub in doing so haha) The fact is that I'm fairly happy, but the last few years have made me start to have scary sort of grown up existential feelings (thanks covid), and although I feel very selfish simply by writing this (or having the thought), I just feel anxious and very frustrated that I am wasting the best (and maybe last) years of my peak physical existence sleeping in a bed which is so cold it could solve the climate emergency. I am just longing to feel seen, and to have that 'thrill' of the first time with someone, call it butterflies if you want - that kind of heart racing feeling when you know you are about to sleep with someone, and the fun and intense emotional connection you build along the way to that point - I crave it, and almost more I crave someone craving it from me. My libido could definitely do with a jolt, but it is still very high, and these feelings are beginning to occupy a lot of my thinking, so I thought cast selfish/guilty feelings to one side, and send a hail mary out to the internet in the only way that's really possible for someone who's married - Reddit forums haha So that's why I'm here - would love to go into it more (I think this is probably enough for an initial post haha) if I connect with someone feeling the same way... ​ **Me and what I'm looking for:** So whilst I might hope someone here loves my overly wordy slightly irritatingly long writing style so much that they want to sleep with me, I'm more realistic that you'll probably also need some physical attraction! I'm a pretty modest person really, but I will dispense with that here and simply say the horrible cringe inducing words (and my face is screwing up as I type this...) and say that I think I'm good looking.I'm 6ft 2 with lots of dark hair, light coloured eyes, and a sort of tanned complexion even when it's this super cold Spring we are having. I do loads of exercise and keep myself in good shape (damn testosterone!) I'm not looking for anything at all specifically physically, for me this is so so much more about finding that right connection emotionally and on a personality level. I think whoever I find will have to be married/attached for a number of reasons (including to really 'get' this feeling), and ideally a good sense of humour (sounds very corny but a sexual partner who makes you laugh is maybe the greatest thing on earth...) - I think we will know within a few minutes of messaging each other whether are sparking or not :) ​ Ok this has now gone on far far too long, I am sure you get the idea! I'm going to press 'Post' and hope someone (who hasn't fallen asleep reading this far haha) decides to send me a message :)